Father of the bride duties because your little girl is getting married!
As the news settles in, it dawns on you of the duties you need to do.
Not sure where to start? Don't worry we're here to help.
So to stop the feeling of dread here is what we are going to cover...
May be this seems daunting to you. Make sure you talk over these feelings over with your significant other.
A sensitive subject, traditionally the Father of the Bride was to finance the Wedding Breakfast and the Reception.
This isn't always the case these days, and you should discuss with your daughter and her betrothed, to understand their expectations. Be honest too about your budget and expectations, I'm sure your daughter doesn't want you knee deep in debt.
Logistically some of the Father of the bride duties will be fundamental things such as...
Now in public, you are showing your daughter off to the world as you walk her to the venue and then down the aisle.
It is wise to walk at the wedding pace (step on the odd numbers when counting if you are not sure!). Perhaps more importantly walk at the pace of your daughter, let her enjoy that limelight.
At the end of the aisle, you will be met by her betrothed and the marriage official.
You have one important line...
Official: Who here gives this woman in holy matrimony?
You: I do.
As you do this, you will be physically handing your daughter's hand to her betrothed. If she is wearing a veil, you can unveil your daughter.
Now you need to head back to the pews, and sit with Mother of the Bride.
Signing the Register
You will need to escort the Bride and Groom through to the Register. Where you will need to sign. Remember to have a pen on hand, just in case.
Walking back down the aisle
This time, as you leave the Register, you should escort the Mother of the Groom. This is symbolic of the families joining in the union of the children that have just been married.
You will likely be sat next to the Mother of the Groom at the reception too, depending on the seating plan. If you have not met before, this could be awkward. I would recommend making sure that this is not the first time you have met!
Father of the bride duties includes this one highlight, that I think most dread... the speech.
If you are not a public speaker, then this can be seen as an ordeal. How long should the speech be, what should you include? What if you are over-emotional?
Well first, don't worry. In it's simplest terms it memorable or amusing events that you have of your daughter. Now that's not so bad is it?
As a highlight, you should have these 4 elements in your speech...
Then sit back down, and relax. Your father of the bride duties are nearly over...
Two left feet? Then well before the wedding, arrange for some dance lessons. Include your daughter, if you wish to put on a show!
The perfect opportunity to congratulate your daughter, the bride, on her day and her choice. Make sure it's a song that you know, and there will still be camera's pointed at you, so you should really still be suited.
When the day draws to a close, your duties are expelled. You can sit back, relax and look with joy and happiness I hope at the couple's special day.
I would recommend a favorite tipple, you've done well Sir!